What are some signs that a therapist may have poor boundaries with their clients?
Last Updated: 20.06.2025 01:19
Failing to mention the client in supervision/consultation, out of fear the supervisor/consultant will advise return to ordinary healthy boundaries.
Eager anticipation (or anxious anticipation) of the next session in ways that distract.
Obsessing about clients outside of work hours.
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Serious disappointment when the client cancels a session.
Sense of competition with persons who are important in the client’s life.
Struggling with fantasies of deeper connections with clients, whether sexual or parental or other intense or intimate relationships beyond psychotherapy.
Session-expressed curiosities about client details not relevant to the therapy.
Disclosing feelings, fantasies, and experiences to the client in ways not related to the work the client is engaged in.
Routinely going over the time limit with certain patients, compromising the time for the next client.
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General Introduction to Boundaries from Panahi Counseling:
These items can happen fleetingly, briefly, in any therapy, but if they’re frequent, it’s definitely time for the therapist to get some good, solid supervision/consultation.
Off the top of my ancient head:
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Frequent phoning or texting of clients to “check up on them and make sure they’re OK.”